“Show up how you are! Just show up messy and keep trying and keep turning our hearts to our families we will get the answers we need and the information we need.”
Learning to build family connection is SO difficult. It is possible though! Michelle gives us some great insight on how to be a little bit better and how to really work on connection. You can create connect with young kids and with older kids. It is possible!
Sometimes we don’t see the progress on our journey because we are so deep in the trenches. We are all doing so much better than we think we are! WE are enough and we are who our family needs! They need us in our weak spots and failures. Teaching our kids to show up that way is the best thing we can do! You have got this!!!
Michelle tells us the 4 things she needs us to take away from this episode.
- Influence will always be greater than control. We want our kids to care about the perspective we have and that all comes from influence.
- When you don’t know what to do and you feel like you need to do something in your parenting journey (or yourself), air on the side of the relationship Look to make a connection and soften your heart and see the good in that child.
- Keep trying. Just show up. You’re in in for a while, so keep going.
- If it’s messy/hard/painful you’re doing it right!
Michelle is an outdoor girl who loves to create. Her creations are messy, varied, and highly imperfect! She enjoy playing with mixed media art and love to write. Michelle is the author of two books, “Finding God in the Mess of our Lives” and a children’s book about big emotion. She am the founder of Build Family Connection where for the last decade She has devoted my energy to guiding families to strengthen and their family relationships one moment at a time. Michelle host the Build Family Connection Podcast, and offer classes and one on one coaching.
Michelle have 3 sons and a daughter who are 22, 20, 17, and 16. Her husband and she met in high school and were best friends before we started dating. They are still best friends, often have differing opinions, and have been married for 25 years.